• Rocket camp

    Lift OffBeth is enrolled in “college for kids,” a summer program run by a local college. She spends the mornings in a full immersion spanish class.

    Sounds like a blast right?

    No, that doesn’t come until the afternoon.

    Rocket camp.

    The teacher even refers to himself as “Captain.”

    O.K., I think that’s a little weird, but he seems like a nice guy, and he’s a really enthusiastic teacher.

    This evening we went to our first big launch event. All of the kids and their families were invited to see the rockets they’d built (so far) reach for the heavens. It was an hour or so before sunset and it had been cloudy/raining all day so it was nice and cool – a perfect evening to be outside (for summer anyway).

    I don’t think Beth could have been any happier. It was a great night to be a father… seeing my kid having such a good time… such a contrast to this last school year. I wish I could bottle this moment, when everything seems right in the world. Just a sip every now and again could do me a world of good.

  • It came in the mail

    I was in college when I got my first SLR camera. It was an inexpensive (re: free) Pentax. A gift in fact, something that wasn’t getting any use from it’s previous owner. I got it with three lenses: an awkward telephoto zoom, a 50mm and a 35mm. When it broke we bought a Canon Rebel with a kit lens, then a “super-zoom” digital camera, then our current Nikon – again with a kit lens (plus a zoom lens suited for shooting outdoor activities).

    Nothing was as fast as those lenses on the old Pentax, and I missed ’em.

    Until now.

    I’ve had the new Nikon 35mm f/1.8 on back order for a while now, and I found it on my doorstep this evening coming home from work with the kids. It couldn’t have come at at better time. Today was a rotten day.

    Here’s some of the first pics. I know it’s a little redundant, showing them in a post when they show up in my Flickr feed in the sidebar, but I can’t resist.
    Intimidating

    I love Adam’s look in this one. So serious… the lighting so sinister… my sweet child in his Mickey shirt.

    Cudly

    The first of several pics taken outside. It was raining and late in the day so the light wasn’t terribly bright.

    Innocent

    Pretty much sums up Adam… or as much as any one picture can.

    Silly

    Cheryl told Adam he could get an alligator from the Build-a-Bear store if he was good for dad while she was gone. He picked out the shirt himself, I swear.

  • My silence

    How would you feel if your spouse didn’t speak? What if it was a coworker or a friend? Would you impute something to their character or nature? Would you interpret it as arrogance, disdain, or indifference? Would you conclude something was wrong? Would you wonder if this person was burdened with a problem in their personal life? Would you ask this person if something was wrong? How would you feel if this person usually replied, “nothing,” though not convincingly?

    I think about it quite a bit. When I’m depressed I spend a lot of time not talking, or saying as little as possible. It’s not because I’m angry, impatient, or think too highly of myself. Mostly, it’s because I don’t have anything to say, or the energy to say it if I do.

    It’s possible some of you know exactly how I feel, if the statistics on depression are right. But I wonder if the popularity of a term has anything to do with real awareness. With all the ads for antidepressants flooding our lives, with actors pouting and wearing sad, puppy dog eyes, has depression become a throwaway word – something people use to describe any bout of blue? When folks ask me what’s wrong and I answer “nothing” it’s about as close to the truth I can get without borrowing a Vulcan. I could tell you I’m depressed but the word feels overused and under valued – like saying a blue whale is a mammal.

    What’s wrong?

    Depression isn’t enough and I don’t have the words in me to replace it. Maybe it’s fitting depression (the word) feels a bit empty. For me, depression is profound sorrow without cause.

    What’s wrong?

    I don’t know. There’s nothing I can point to. I can’t say the cat died or someone said something mean in study hall. It’s nothing, everything, and exhausting. I feel upset but nothing obvious is wrong. I feel preoccupied but I’m not doing anything (and I don’t have any plans or desire to do otherwise). Imagine how I might respond when someone comes to me with a question, asks for a favor, or invites me out for a little fun. I try to rise above the depression, to not let it define me, but it’s hard. Really hard. I try to be helpful, to be the person I want to be, but sometimes tone speaks louder than words.

    I suffer in silence. I appear to be unwilling to tell you what is wrong, but I feel incapable. I appear reluctant to help, socialize, or join group activities, but I feel overwhelmed. I appear to be making excuses and I fear that I am.

    Still, I’m determined not to let it be one.

    In the mean time I want you to know one thing.

    I’m sorry. It’s not you. It was never you (well almost never). It’s me.

    —

    People are capable of great strength, and sometimes I wonder how. Is it like asking a great writer how he/she writes so well, or a bird how it flies? Maybe some people just are, and the rest of us are not. Or, maybe I shouldn’t worry how others manage great strength and focus on the evidence it’s possible. Maybe I don’t have a gift for writing, but I could try to cut down on unneccessary punctuation. Maybe I can’t flap my wings to get off the ground, but I could work on my vertical leap.

    Today is another day, another opportunity to step forward.